Selena Gomez Reflects on Post-Bieber Loneliness and Finding Love with Benny Blanco
Selena Gomez is offering a vulnerable glimpse into her emotional journey following her highly publicized breakup with Justin Bieber and her subsequent rediscovery of love with her fiancé, Benny Blanco. In a recent appearance on the "Table Manners" podcast, Gomez candidly discussed the feelings of isolation she experienced in the years between ending her long-term relationship with Bieber and forming a genuine connection with Blanco.
Gomez, the acclaimed singer behind the hit "Lose You to Love Me," confessed that she hadn’t felt a romantic spark with anyone for a considerable period. This revelation underscores the emotional weight she carried after the end of her tumultuous relationship with Bieber, which spanned nearly a decade. The on-again, off-again nature of their romance, from 2010 to 2018, undoubtedly left its mark, making the prospect of opening herself up to love again a daunting one.
The singer went on to describe the transformative moment when she shared her first kiss with Blanco. According to Gomez, the kiss felt like a breath of fresh air, a stark contrast to the string of underwhelming dating experiences she had endured in the intervening years. She emphasized the distinction between casual kisses and those that carry a deeper emotional significance. "Some kisses are for fun, and then when you feel something behind a kiss, it’s completely different," she explained.
Gomez further elaborated on her extended period of solitude, revealing that she had been "alone for about five years, with the exception of a few (bad) dates here and there." Despite venturing back into the dating scene, she consistently failed to find a connection that resonated with her. This period of loneliness reportedly left her feeling "a little embarrassed," perhaps due to the public scrutiny surrounding her love life and the pressure to find a partner.
Prior to her relationship with Blanco, Gomez was linked to DJ Zedd in 2015 and singer The Weeknd in 2017. While these relationships may have offered temporary companionship, they ultimately did not fulfill her longing for a profound and lasting connection. The shadow of her past relationship with Bieber, coupled with the challenges of navigating the dating world in the spotlight, likely contributed to her difficulty in finding someone who truly understood and appreciated her.
In a separate interview with Time magazine, published in May, Gomez provided further insight into the unexpected origins of her romance with Blanco. Initially, she viewed the "Diamonds" producer solely as a friend and collaborator. However, her perception shifted after attending a birthday party with the intention of meeting one of Blanco’s friends. It was during this encounter that she realized her feelings for Blanco had evolved beyond platonic affection. "It just happens when you least expect it," Gomez remarked, highlighting the unpredictable nature of love and the importance of remaining open to unexpected possibilities.
The singer’s relationship with Blanco officially became public in December 2023, sending ripples of excitement and speculation through the entertainment world. In a now-deleted comment on social media, Gomez seemingly hinted that the couple had already been dating for six months prior to the public announcement. This revelation suggests that their connection had been developing gradually and privately, allowing them to build a strong foundation before exposing their relationship to the intense scrutiny of the media.
A year after going public with their relationship, Gomez and Blanco shared the joyous news of their engagement. The announcement was met with an outpouring of support from fans, friends, and fellow celebrities, who celebrated the couple’s commitment to building a future together. The engagement marks a significant milestone in Gomez’s journey towards healing and finding lasting happiness after years of heartbreak and uncertainty.
Meanwhile, Justin Bieber has also moved on and found happiness with his wife, model Hailey Bieber. Their own on-again-off-again romance began in 2015 and culminated in their marriage in 2018. The Biebers recently welcomed their first child, a son named Jack Blues Bieber, in August, marking a new chapter in their lives as a family.
Selena Gomez’s story serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring power of love. Despite facing numerous challenges and setbacks in her personal life, she has emerged stronger and more determined to find genuine happiness. Her relationship with Benny Blanco represents a new beginning, a chance to build a life filled with love, laughter, and mutual support. By sharing her experiences with vulnerability and honesty, Gomez has inspired countless others to believe in the possibility of finding love again, even after experiencing heartbreak and disappointment. Her journey is a reminder that love can blossom when you least expect it, and that sometimes, the greatest connections are formed with those who were once simply friends.
